“... when the risk to remain tight in a bud was
more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anaïs Nin
Last weekend I attended a personal growth course
with David Wood. Well known for his work with T. Harv Eker and the
Millionaire Mind seminars, he is now a formidable trainer for Isagenix and his
events are not to be missed.
This is the second time I’ve done one of these with
David, and I wondered if I would learn anything new the second time
around. I will never question that again. While a lot of the
subject matter was a repeat, I was able to delve deeper into the content, and
apply it to not just my business, but to my life. In spades.
One of the main thrusts of the weekend was to get
out of my comfort zone. Funny, I had just written a post about that a
couple of weeks ago (Scared Shiftless). I must have been getting ready
for this next step!
Of course Marty was there with me (another one of our
adventures!) and we were able to have honest conversation about our
friendship. We did an exercise where we determined our personality type
and what motivated each of us depending on our “colour”. It was so
freeing to be able to have a platform from which we could neutrally talk to
each other about those little niggling things that we do through our own
motivations (e.g. to feel good or avoid discomfort or rejection) and to find
out how the other person experiences them. In fact, it was clear that not
understanding each other’s reasons for doing things got in the way of our
growing friendship. And that if they are named, it actually expands the
relationship.
I came away from that weekend with a deeper
connection with Marty and an understanding of some of the things I do that
drive her nuts (and other people too no doubt)! It has helped me become more
conscious in my everyday words and decisions, and I anchored my understanding
of “how I do anything, is how I do everything”.
But it didn’t stop there. Every day since
then, I have been reexamining my modus operandi in relationships (both
past and present) and found some golden nuggets. And here’s the scary part for
me. I know that my relationships need freshening up and I can’t get
away with a superficial glossing over of stuff just to keep them intact.
I need to get out of my comfort zone and come clean – whether it’s telling
someone that the dynamic needs to change or telling someone that I love them
and am grateful that they are in my life, or both!
So I have personally declared March as
“Relationship Spring Cleaning Month”. Wherever I feel there is unfinished
business or something that needs airing, I am getting out my cleaning supplies
and starting to scrub. I’m not leaving myself out of the equation.
I think a good deep cleansing for me would just add to the exhilaration I feel
when I think of the relief of not having to sustain something that isn’t
authentic.
What I have come to value the most in my
relationships is a willingness to evolve, through thick and thin, through
discomfort, and not just feeling good all the time at the expense of capital
“T” truth. I am now willing to lose relationships if I can’t be authentic
within them.
Branded by a rose in my teeth (and a lampshade
crown),
Authentically yours,
Buns xo
P.S. If you want to find out more about David
Wood here are the details...
For your listening pleasure, here is another of my
favourite songs...
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