How come
change is something that we don’t consciously focus on? It’s as if we think it happens to us, without
our consent and so it’s best to not think about it until it’s staring you in
the face. Then you have no choice but to deal with it! It seems to me that this approach generates
stress and calls on coping skills, all based on a desire to control the
situation and regain stasis.
It’s funny right? Change is inevitable and a
constant as long as we are alive. It’s the only thing to count on actually. You
can count on nothing ever staying the same. And yet rather than choose to
invite and open to the experience as part of our personal evolution we contract
and steel ourselves to maneuver the unpredictable waters of change. Instead we
wait for change to befall us and then we strategize.
If I am
being honest, even when I open and embrace change there is always an element of
fear. Is it fear of the unknown or more
a fear that I will lose what I DO know or have, in the process?
It’s an important question to ask since it explains
holding on, sometimes long after we know that change is called for. I have
chosen in the past to live in the known, even accepting crumbs and justifying my
situation by believing that I could live this way and simply be grateful for
what I do have. And yet this choice takes a toll. We are meant to be fully
fulfilled and accepting anything less impacts our emotional well being, our
health and ultimately our ability to dream and go after our heart’s desire.
Holding on for the sake of security or safety only brings one thing in the end.
Exhaustion!
So how do we
create a healthy relationship with a force that is truly beyond our control?
Well I don’t know about you but considering change will occur regardless I
would rather work with it than against it. Controlling anything is always a massive
energy drainer so why not start with the premise that there is another way, a
more fluid and flowing way.
You would
certainly have to wake up and notice day to day choices you are making and
determine whether they are in alignment with your values and with living
authentically.
Are you being truly honest and expressing in a
real way…both with yourself and to others? If you are pretending, smiling and wearing a
mask then change has a predictable habit of kicking you in the butt when you
least expect it. That’s your part of the dynamic. When you are sleeping your
way through your life on autopilot, change occurs in order to wake you up. So
getting on board with change would mean waking up all by yourself and not
waiting for an external event to jar you from your placid slumber. You cannot
change what you are unwilling to confront. Start with the commitment to live
with eyes wide open. That is the demonstration that says. I am willing to
embrace change with ease.
And now we
circle back to fear. We close our eyes and avoid the truth when we are afraid.
It’s a reflex action to take flight, numb out, ignore or deny. The fight
directive too kicks in when anxiety and fear rears its head inside of us. Choosing
a different way means standing still long enough to feel what is going on in
every moment. Take in all the details that are occurring inside and outside of
ourselves and then make a conscious choice based on the direction that you are
in alignment with. Setting your course in
advance based on the kind of person you wish to be, allows you to relax and stay
anchored to yourself no matter what is occurring. Believing that change has your back and it is
a good thing is essential.
Step one: awaken.
Step two: determine direction based on values like being honest or joyful or
free. Step three: hold on with a light touch and make space. You are not the
only one here. The universe wants to play with you…in a good way.
Change, which is a conduit of the universe has
some ideas in mind that you may not have even thought of. Surrender control
long enough to create an opening for something brand new to appear. How you
navigate change will make the difference between surviving and thriving. I
think this mindset is crucial from the start and then faith, trust that a
process is occurring that has your best interests at heart is what allows you
to perceive the wonders that want to come your way.
And remember
the only difference between the experience of fear in the body and that of
excitement is in what you are make it mean!
Branded by
transition,
Authentically
Yours
Marty
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